A few months ago I had a job opportunity I didn’t want to turn down. The timing seemed to work out perfectly. I was able to transition my 3 year old son from part time parent’s day out to full time daycare the week I took on the job. The transition worked out perfectly for my son since his new classroom was right next door to the old one. He still got to see his friends and teachers that he has become attached to. My son took on this new change with no problem at all. I cried on my way to work every day for the first week. It was really hard for me to let go and spend so much time away from my little boy.
As the weeks went on I quit being hard on myself and took on my role as a working mom. I really only got to spend 2-3 hours a day with my kids during the week so we really took advantage of our weekends. We made sure to spend time together and disconnect from technology by going hiking and spending time with friends and family on the weekends. Our family has discovered a new love for the outdoors and our beautiful surroundings that we are so lucky to have.
So what went wrong? Why did I decide to take my son out of full time daycare? Well nothing really went wrong. I enjoyed the job and still plan to do the work that’s given to me from this job. I just came to the realization that my son will be going off to Kindergarten in a year and my children are growing up way too fast for me to spend all of my time in an office while I pay someone to raise my child. I realize this may be a statement that could be offensive to many working moms. I do not mean to offend working moms at all. When you are a working mom you do the best you can with the time you are given. And a lot of working moms do not have a choice to not be a working mom and other working moms love being working moms and thrive. So major kudos to you working moms out there who make it work. I obviously am not one of those moms. I can’t handle only seeing my kids for 2-3 hours a day. I feel like my days consisted of waking the kids up, feeding them breakfast, rushing them out the door to school, working all day, picking the kids up, cooking dinner, working on homework, bathtime and then bedtime. At anytime between any of these activities was bound to be a breakdown for myself, one of the kids or my husband because at any given time one or all of us were worn down and grouchy. This is not a lifestyle that is ok with me.
So what did I do to change things? Starting this week I put my son back in his old parent’s day out class. He will only be in school on Tuesdays and Thursdays. My work load has not really changed. I have just as much work, if not more work to do. This just means I’m going to have to be a master at managing my time. Luckily in my field of web development I can work remotely. And I’ve also taken on a few money making ventures. Between my web development business with Agilibility, my Beachbody coach business, my job as a Young Living distributor and picking back up with my blog here at Mom Elite I’m confident I’ll be able to make this work. All of these jobs allow me to do the things that I love and live a healthier and active lifestyle all while spending the time that I need with my family.