The Most Important Skill in Life is Learning How to Control Yourself

self control

Self-control, also referred to as self-mastery, is a term that is used so often to a point it is assumed everyone understands its meaning. Self-control is the ability to regulate your thoughts, emotions, and behavior when faced with temptations.

Self-control is a critical skill that enables an individual to make the right decisions and therefore lead a happy and healthy life. The skill of self-mastery commonly lacks in society today as a result of various reasons such as peer pressure due to influence mainly from social media.

Learning self-control can be difficult for some individuals. However, there are various ways you can acquire this essential skill

Learning How to Control Yourself

Know yourself

The process of acquiring self-control begins by discovering yourself. Evaluate yourself to determine where you need to control yourself. Think about how you carry yourself in your daily activities and determine whether that is the right manner. Evaluate your behaviours to determine if they need any rectification.

Understand your weaknesses

As humans, we all know that it is normal to have flaws. However, most people find it hard to accept their imperfections. Having the ability to recognize your weaknesses, whatever they may be, is one of the secrets to gaining self-control. Accepting your weaknesses helps you to control your behaviours and actions.

Reconcile with yourself

You should recognize that failing is part of life. Therefore, don’t beat yourself up for failure as it leads to nothing positive. Learn to get back up and try again. When you reconcile with yourself after failure, you will be able to avoid getting yourself into destructive habits to escape from the reality of failure. Additionally, reconciling with yourself will enable you to remain focused and, therefore, slowly acquire the skill of controlling yourself.

Recognize intrusive thoughts

Establish strategies that will help you recognize intrusive thoughts or temptations and overcome them. The ability to resist temptations will help you build your self-control steadily. For you to be able to recognize tempting thoughts, you should ensure that you are aware of the behaviours that you want to control as well as the situations that bring about the behaviour. Being aware of these behaviours will make it easier for you to implement self-control.

Look for healthy distractions

It can be challenging to resist having intrusive thoughts if you do nothing about it. After being able to recognize the temptations, you should find a way to distract yourself actively with something else, something healthy and constructive. Distracting yourself with something better will help you learn how to control yourself.

However, if you find yourself in extreme situations, you may want to consider professional help, such as getting enrolled in a mens addiction treatment program to help you fight the addiction.

Final Thoughts

Self-control is not easy to acquire; however, it is not difficult to learn either. It all depends on your persistence and will power. If you have the strong will power to ultimately achieve self-control, you are going to try all ways possible. Try to meditate and be consistent in controlling your behavior and actions.

24 thoughts on “The Most Important Skill in Life is Learning How to Control Yourself”

  1. Wow this was definitely something I needed to read! I completely agree with this, it’s so important to know yourself and understand your weaknesses. Thanks for this!

  2. This is all so helpful! I definitely struggle with self-control when I’m overwhelmed, like when my kids are throwing tantrums or I’m having a terrible day. Thanks for sharing this info!!

  3. Mary Osadolor – I am a woman of substance, a goal getter who believes in equity. I am married and blessed with wonderful children. I strive to deliver excellence in all I embark on, with the hope of affecting positively the lives of people I come in contact with. I am an accountant, a philanthropist and a blogger.

    I believe that the outcome of every situation depends on how we handle them and this boils down to our ability to take control of our body and mind. Thank you for this beautiful article.

  4. I think finding healthy distractions really spoke to me! I am working on some self control things now and I can see how a distraction could be a really benefit!

  5. Singing A New Song – Hello, I'm Shayla! I'm a blogging/vlogging homeschooling mom of many, wife to one, and work at home mom. We are a big, Jesus loving, God fearing family and we love to laugh! Common topics you’ll find here include faith, marriage, motherhood, homeschooling, lifestyle, domestic arts, herbs & oils, and holistic living (with a realistic, big family mama/frugal approach). I love sharing practical solutions we find to problems we encounter, as well as things that inspire and encourage us through this crazy, beautiful journey!

    It is a critical life skill. I think too that it’s important to recognize that sometimes in life there are abusive people that purposely try to push our buttons with the intent of causing us look like a “crazy” fool, and to know it’s okay to stay away from people like that as much as possible! I know that once I started doing this life became peaceful all of a sudden.
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  6. MUAKimPorter – New York City makeup artist, beauty and <a href="">mom blogger</a> . I'm a Hofstra University graduate with a Bachelor of Science degree in Community Health. Although my background is in health, beauty and makeup artistry is where my heart lies. I immensely enjoy helping myself and others feel beautiful inside and out. I've launched a beauty blog and a Youtube instructional channel, through these I hope to reach a wider audience and provide the women with a virtual hands-on guide to putting their best face forward. The most important element of my work is to be able to use my creativity to enhance natural beauty, yet bring out a person’s inner beauty and individuality. If you have a beauty or makeup related question, contact me. Your question could be featured on the site! I also accept guest post submissions, check the <a href="">guidelines</a>. ***Brands and PR firms sometime provide press samples of products for review consideration. These brands are not guaranteed a review on Makeup by Kim Porter Blog, nor do we accept payment of any kind for our reviews. For more on our disclosure policies, please see my <a href="">terms</a> .

    This was a great post and much needed. I’ve learned that controlling your response to anything is key to less stress, less anger, less resentment… Thank you for sharing.
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  7. Parent On Board – United States – I am a blogger and mental health professional. I strive to make the parenting journey easier and more enjoyable by using my background in mental health and my experience as a mom of 2.

    Thanks for sharing this. I think another way of viewing self-control is mindfulness and intention. When you approach life with mindfulness and intention self-control becomes part of the package. I love yoga and meditation to help keep me centered and grounded and allowing me to carry that feeling through my daily activities.

  8. rakshanagaraj – Sydney and Bangalore – Welcome! I’m Raksha Nagaraj, the blogger and social media influencer behind Solopassport. My primary focus is on solo female traveling, hiking, and scuba diving.

    This post is so helpful. I have a huge problem of self control especially when I am emotionally driven.

  9. Neil Alvin Nicerio – I'm a travel blogger based in the Philippines. Join me as we explore the Philippines and the world!

    Amazing. Your article is a very worthwhile read. I learned something from it. Thanks for sharing.

  10. Goldfish and Gin – I'm a perfectly imperfect large family mom with a love for family, fashion, beauty and supporter of breastfeeding and body positivity.

    Self control is so important in all aspects of your life but especially in motherhood. I’ll admit, I’ve had to learn how to control my temper throughout the year but it’s so important that I show my kids that they can walk away and think before they react.

  11. Michele @ ourredonkulouslife – United States – Hello, Fellow Millennials! Are you on a personal growth journey? Working on figuring out who you are as an adult? Me too! It’s tough learning how to love yourself as you get older.

    I am working really hard on my self-control. Since I am trying to create new habits, self-control is important. Thank you for sharing!

  12. Like anything when you really understand who you are, it helps to manage life a little better! Great post, valuable lessons

  13. Danielle Rice – My name is Danielle Rice, but you can all me Danie for short. Since my early adulthood, I have spent any extra time I have documenting my life, and those around me. It was not until a few years ago, I began to tell the story of my life (there’s a big difference in documenting and telling a story). At the end of the day, I want those who look at my scrapbooking layouts to feel what I felt during the experience, as well as the mood I felt when I created the layout. I know you are dying to know a bit more about me. I am a wife, mother, and part-time artist. I have been married to my VERY SUPPORTIVE husband, LaDerrick, for 15?years, in which we have two rowdy boys, Teheran (13) and Tayvian (5). These two boys right here stay keeping us on our toes. With kids, comes extracurricular activities. At the moment, our time is spread between Cub Scouts and hiking. I currently work full-time as the lead emergency manager Central Alabama Veterans Healthcare System based in Tuskegee. Factor that in with my kids extracurricular, there is not much more I can handle, but somehow this girl finds time to craft, YouTube, and blog on occasion.

    self-control is one of the many things that is hard to conquer at any point in life. I think being in the military has helped me excel and maintaining self-control

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