How To Give Your Kids A Daily Confidence Boost

There’s no doubt that parenting can be tough sometimes, but one of the great joys of the experience is getting to give your kids the tools they need to be great human beings. Often we focus on getting kids to eat a healthy diet or take enough exercise, and although these things are extremely important, we also need to acknowledge the formative role we have as parents in shaping their mental health. We can pass on an extremely valuable gift for life by giving them the tools and the language to talk about their well being and take positive steps to fix it. The trouble is, sometimes we have not had this support ourselves, so it can be hard to know where to start. In making the conscious decision to give your children emotional resilience and confidence in their own abilities, you may well go on a journey yourself, and come out the other side much stronger. But where do you begin when you need to take the first step?

Allow Them To Make Choices

True confidence comes from understanding yourself and having faith in your capabilities, and we can only give that to our children if we allow them some freedom of choice. That’s not to say that we shouldn’t guide them and be there to support them, but encouraging them to think about their own actions, think through consequences and evaluate the impact is hugely important. You can offer a ‘set menu’ of options to give them a framework, but knowing when to step back and allow them to fail is an art – and one that will teach them so much more resilience, confidence and independent thought in the end. 

Get Them Support Where Needed

Sometimes in life, extra support is needed to help your child overcome a particular issue. This could be getting some specialist counselling if your child has encountered a difficult situation like the death of a loved one or parental separation at an early age, or seeing a speech pathologist if they need help in that area. Working towards helping them overcome any issues early on, before they have the chance to develop into more, can be quite life-altering. Part of effective parenting is recognizing your own limitations and tagging in the professionals if necessary.

Talk About Failure

It’s an experience that no one likes to think about  – but at some point in their life, your child will experience failure. And that isn’t necessarily a negative thing. In fact, failure is very valuable as it teaches us a lot more than instant success. Learning to take feedback on board levelly, being able to return from a setback, accepting criticism where justified and applying the lesson to improve something is absolutely essential. There are no true success stories that don’t have failure in them. Let your child know that it’s important to fail, and that it doesn’t reflect on who they are as person – the important thing is what they do afterwards. We can spend a lot of energy trying to control life’s events when it simply isn’t possible. Teach your child to accept that, and focus on the things that they can control and they’re likely to lead a happier and more confident life. 

Avoid False Praise

Wanting to build our kids up is very natural, and sometimes this means that we take any opportunity to offer them some praise. And while this is lovely, kids actually have a very finely honed radar for insincere compliments. It’s important that the praise we offer them is both genuine and specific. Instead of platitudes, tell them exactly what about their actions is so commendable. Giving praise correctly is a process which can be very beneficial.

Give Them Assigned Tasks

Building confidence can be achieved with age-appropriate chores too. Letting children contribute to the running of the household gives them a sense of ownership and lets them make small achievements during the course of each day. Activities such as cooking with children are also great ways to bring the family closer together – and can often be helpful with encouraging them to eat healthily as well. Walking the dog, folding or sorting laundry, setting the table or watering plants are also great ones. Completing these things gives children a feeling of accomplishment and being competent which will encourage them onto bigger things. Try to relax if things are less than perfect – the gains that your children are making each day are more than worth letting them do it their own way a little bit!

29 thoughts on “How To Give Your Kids A Daily Confidence Boost”

  1. elevatedmum – My name is Ngozi and I blog at Elevated Mum dot com. Elevated Mum was created to help mums elevate their minds and improve their mental health so they can overcome low self-esteem issues, anxiety, and depression and start living purposeful, meaningful, and joyful lives. This is my personal journey, and I'd love to take other mums with me!

    This is so true. Addressing these issues on childhood would hopefully make them confident and well-rounded adults. Thanks for sharing.

  2. elevatedmum – My name is Ngozi and I blog at Elevated Mum dot com. Elevated Mum was created to help mums elevate their minds and improve their mental health so they can overcome low self-esteem issues, anxiety, and depression and start living purposeful, meaningful, and joyful lives. This is my personal journey, and I'd love to take other mums with me!

    This is so true. Addressing these issues on childhood would hopefully make them confident and well-rounded adults. Thanks for sharing
    Ngozi recently posted…7 Fascinating Benefits of Practising Gratitude

  3. Emily S. – I am a mom to three amazing kids, ages 5, 3, and 1. My husband is a saint to deal with all of our craziness!

    Yes! Great post! I always give my kids choices and make sure they feel emotionally validated. I think it’s so important to teach our children that they will fail sometimes but that is okay too!

  4. goldwestvintage

    Great ideas! It can be hard not to overpraise sometimes, but it definitely does need to be authentic! We are working on giving the kids chores as well.

  5. peculiaroffspring – Hi my name is Stephanie, I currently reside in Pennsylvania. I moved here from the city of lights, New York City! I am a wife and a mother! The purpose of this blog is to document my life and to express my thoughts! I hope you enjoy what I post and get inspired!

    I think it’s so important for kids to feel confidence. Especially when making choices. We always give my toddler small task for her. Thank you for sharing!

  6. Beautiful article! I love how you mention to talk about your failures. I feel like it’s so important that kids understand that people make mistakes. That way they will be easier on themselves and easy on other people!

  7. Great points you have made. I don’t have any kids myself, but I can understand that it is important to build their confidence.

    I like your point about failure, as it is not entire negative. Learning from failure is one of the most important lessons that kids can learn in my opinion.

  8. Cassandra – I'm a single mom of 5 amazing children, travel blogger and rock star virtual assistant.

    These are definitely great tips in order to get your children’s confidence boosted

  9. Confidence is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give their child. If you do the hard work for your child then they’ll never develop the abilities or the confidence to figure out problems on their own. Thanks for this parenting tip!

  10. My Path To Travel – Denmark – Hi, I'm Karen, and independent travel is my passion. My goal is to share travel tips, destination guides and offer one to one help for over 50s so they too can live their travel dreams. Over the past 20 years, I've visited 74 countries, travelling solo, long term, short term, with friends, my partner and even on an overland truck for six months. If you want all the best advice to travel longer, further and most importantly, safely My Path To Travel is the website for you.

    Great post. Allowing kids to make their own choices is the best. I came from a generation where that wasn’t always the case.

  11. sumit walia – Passionate about photography and travel. An ardent blogger, traveller, photographer, animal lover and reader. This blog is an outreach to connect with like-minded individuals as well as enthusiasts and clients.

    truly a great post and I can relate the may key pints that you have bought out. I think giving them low key responsibility is indeed a great value addition

  12. Jeanie Cullip – a local coffee shop – Caffeinated EMT wife, blended family mom & middle school teacher ☕️ Loves reading, writing & all things that sparkle!

    Incredible tips to raising a respectful child rest to take on the world. I raised my children as such and it is so beautiful to watch them shine!

  13. Mary Osadolor – I am a woman of substance, a goal getter who believes in equity. I am married and blessed with wonderful children. I strive to deliver excellence in all I embark on, with the hope of affecting positively the lives of people I come in contact with. I am an accountant, a philanthropist and a blogger.

    Great post, giving our children the opportunity of making choices at times is difficult for us as parents, but it’s one thing we need to work more on, in order to boost their confidence.

  14. If we praise after our little ones complete their tasks and make their choices, they will definitely gain more confidence. I try to give them no more choices than their age–a two year old might have the choice between an apple or goldfish crackers as a snack while a three year old might be able to choose from pancakes, eggs, or cereal for breakfast. Specifics work better than open-ended questions for me.

  15. Singing A New Song – Hello, I'm Shayla! I'm a blogging/vlogging homeschooling mom of many, wife to one, and work at home mom. We are a big, Jesus loving, God fearing family and we love to laugh! Common topics you’ll find here include faith, marriage, motherhood, homeschooling, lifestyle, domestic arts, herbs & oils, and holistic living (with a realistic, big family mama/frugal approach). I love sharing practical solutions we find to problems we encounter, as well as things that inspire and encourage us through this crazy, beautiful journey!

    I think these are really wonderful idea’s to help build children’s confidence. As a mom of 6 I can verify that they really do work too. I use many of these and my kids are almost too confident at times!

  16. Neil Alvin Nicerio – I'm a travel blogger based in the Philippines. Join me as we explore the Philippines and the world!

    I can relate to your article as I have been doing it to my daughter already. 🙂

  17. aisasami – Japan

    Yes, yes, yes! As a teacher who teachers preschool kids, these three things are super important in giving confidence but also many other things (Behavior, responsibility, and etc).

  18. Michele @ ourredonkulouslife – United States – Hello, Fellow Millennials! Are you on a personal growth journey? Working on figuring out who you are as an adult? Me too! It’s tough learning how to love yourself as you get older.

    I am all for giving a child choices, sometimes they make the wrong choices and that is okay. We all make mistakes and you learn from the choices you make. Learn the lesson, grow, and do better next time. Great post.
    Michele recently posted…A Stepmother’s worse fear

  19. I agree on the importance of allowing our kids to make choices. Love the idea of offering a set of choices in this way there is a balance of the opportunity for decision making and guidance.

    Thank you for sharing these tips! These are truly helpful. 🙂

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Exit mobile version